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Here is an oldie (relatively speaking) but a goodie about dating. It originally appeared on Policymic.com.
Once upon a time, there was an HBO series that put a false illusion of hope and excitement into the heads of millions of women, (in addition to many gay men,) across the United States and the world: Sex and the City. Sure some of us may go on to be rich and successful, in addition to residing in a major city, but for the majority of us, we will teeter on the line of middle class (until we marry up for money), have roommates until our late 20’s or early 30’s (hopefully not any longer), and live in a mid-sized city with what appears to be slim pickings in the relationship department.
The advice in this article is both for men and women, black and white, gay and straight, and so on.
This is not 1950’s suburbia people; if you are stuck struggling with the strict gender norms and societal roles, get over yourself! That being said, you should take the following suggestions and conduct yourself with good grace and decorum; by doing so, you will be showing respect for not only yourself, but also your partner.
Okay, let’s say you are on your first or second date and your nerves are getting the best of you. Please, under any circumstance, do not have more than three drinks at dinner. Not only do four drinks at dinner make you seem trashy and like an open alcoholic, but I can bet money that you will make a fool of yourself by the end of the date, especially if you two plan to go on to another event after dinner.
Speaking of dinner, please follow the following tips for bill paying, depending on your sexuality. Males always pay for females. The taller of two gay men pay. Lesbians: whoever loses the game of thumb war at the restaurant picks up the tab.
These rules have been around for ages; don’t argue with me. Okay, I just made them up, but it’s legit advice.
This is the number one indicator of how a future relationship will pan out. Never be rude to your waiter or bartender, no matter how rude or disrespectful they are to you. This goes vice versa for your date. If they lose their temper when they get the wrong order, who says they won’t backhand you for showing up to their house late once you are in a relationship? It’s one thing to be nice to the server’s face and talk crap about them when they leave. I, unlike most people, have been taught the right way to handle this by my parents: you talk about people behind their backs.
In addition, you are on the date with another real life person, not your iPhone. One of the rudest things you can do on a date is to be constantly checking your phone. If you wanted to talk with your friends so badly, why did you even go on the date at all?
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